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Late November, early December of last year, I asked myself what the proper date was to hold a memorial ceremony for my husband Ray, who had died on December 3, 2005. Because we sometimes use the Hebrew date of an event, I was unsure whether to use that or the Gregorian date. The appropriate date sort of revealed itself to me without my consent or participation. It’s now November 15th (2007), and I’m finding myself in somewhat of a mire of down feelings. It feels very much like grief, but because December 3rd had felt like the right date last year, I wasn’t expecting these feelings for at least another week or two. Puzzled, I tried a few things that usually pick up my mood (special tea, a trip to a local organic farm, an interesting movie), but nothing seemed to work. Just like last year, it suddenly dawned on me that there is a reason for this oppressive feeling: Continue Reading »

I’ve just completed my first week (second year) of school at Rimon, and let me tell you, it’s fun, exciting and exhilarating, but not at all easy. The material is challenging, which tells me I’m in all the right classes (it’s just enough over my head to take me out of my comfort zone), but the hardest part is battling my habitual thinking, my limiting thoughts.

In Louise Hay’s book, “You Can Heal Your Life,” there is a chapter titled, “Where Does It Come From?” Here she tells us to examine our past and take a look at some of the beliefs that have been running us…in other words, limiting us, holding us back. She provides an exercise called “Negative Messages” in which you list all the things your parents said were wrong with you along with all the other negative messages you heard. About money, about your physique, and love and relationships, about your creative talents. Once these things are listed (she says it usually takes about 1/2 hour), she writes, “…just look objectively at these items and say to yourself, ‘So that’s where that belief came from.’” She then advises Continue Reading »